Divorce. Whose Side Are YOU On?

Ok, here's a touchy subject. Divorce. With half of all marriages ending in divorce, I'm pretty sure that just about everyone reading this has been touched one way or another by someone's... or their own divorce. I'm not here to debate the legitimacy of it, or discuss the circumstances under which it's "ok" to divorce. Let's not even get into the idea that one side is "wrong" and the other is "right" 'cause we're all Human, and that means that, in all fairness chances are that neither side is totally "right" and neither is totally "wrong" either.

My purpose here to day is to start a dialog on an important, but not well discussed aspect of it. Whose side do you take? Family, friends, and unfortunately, children are often asked to chose one "camp" or the other. So, how does one make the choice? Do you listen carefully to each side's position? "She did to me..." "He did to me..." Then carefully weigh the evidence and try to come up with your own judgment of which side was "more wrong"?

Or perhaps you just pick the side you're most closely related to? "He's my brother, so ..." "But she's been my friend for ages..." Is that a better rule of thumb? I mean, "Blood is thicker than water" right? Isn't it true that if your sibling gets divorced, doesn't that mean that your sibling-in-law is now a "sibling-out-law"? No longer related to you at all? Years of relationship, parenting of nieces & nephews, none of that matters any longer?

I'm sure there are people out there that have gone through a divorce, be it a nasty or civil, that are saying "Yep. That's right. If they're not related to me any longer, they shouldn't be related to you!" But maybe some of you had to watch loved ones go through the experience and are now faced with the ... expectation? of having to choose sides that are saying, "But I still love both people." And that's the key, isn't it? People. Not "sides" but people. Hurting people.

So, now it's your turn... We all want to hear from you. You've gone through a divorce, or seen loved one go through it. What do you think? Do we all have to go through a divorce too? Do we all have to choose sides?